College Degree Vs. No Degree

I have noticed over the past couple weeks that many people have debated about whether or not college degrees serve a purpose or not. I myself have a Bachelor's and I am working on my Master's. Am I presently working? Nope. Am i struggling to find a job? Yes. Do I ever regret getting my degree?? Hell no.

Now with that being said, there are many people with and without degrees who do have jobs. The problem I have is with the people without degrees who keep throwing all this shade towards those who do. If you chose not get a degree and decided another option was better for you then so be it. Their reasoning has always been this "some of the most successful people do not have degrees". I then ask them, who are you referring to? Music artists? Bill Gates? Athletes?? I have really yet to get a solid response. They forget many people who are rich who are not famous who do have degrees and are quiet successful in their fields.

Yes there are many ways to be successful in life without actually having a college degree. Will you be a lawyer, doctor, scientist, researcher, pharmacist, etc etc without one? Hell no. If you like more blue collar jobs or maybe opted the music route then that's great too!! But do NOT tell me that in life a degree does not benefit you. I knew what I wanted to do in life and I knew that it required having either a chemistry/chemical engineering degree therefore that is what I acquired. 

Here is the other issue I have. You can disagree if you want, but I find that the arguments that people do not need degrees come from many guys with a "hood" mentality. Many of them are the same ones who feel people who do have degrees act like they are better than them. In all actuality there are people who do feel that way, but I have a feeling they were like that before they had that degree. I have encountered this argument on twitter quite a few times in the past couple months and it baffles me of some people way of thinking but there is nothing I can do about that.

There are countless ways to acquire secondary knowledge like training programs, the military, certifications, or plain experience. Everybody has options, you like it I love it. But do not knock people who chose to go to college and further our education that way, do not let some of the snobby apples ruin the whole bunch. 

*Cedes*

The Reason Behind This Blog

This really should have been the first post but the way my thoughts jump from one thing to another I just went with whatever I felt at the time. I was sitting on twitter about two hours ago asking questions to my followers about how they felt about their significant others choosing to write their thoughts to them instead of voicing them. I realized many people had no issues with it as long as it did NOT become a crutch.

The reason for my questions were because I am known to have the "Words Trapped in My Throat" syndrome. Whenever I am in an unknown situation or where I am not completely comfortable with the opposite sex I bitch up like like there is a gun to my head. In the past couple months I experienced this in the worse way. I would literally hear the words in my head but my mouth would open and there would be nothing but air coming out. But the crazy shit was that I could write it or voice it to somebody else who it didn't affect of course. Anyhoo, I digress. If the theory "closed mouths don't get fed" is true, I would be one hungry bitch at times because I that gripping mixture of pride and fear has been a factor in making my life miserable as hell at times.

I sat and thought about it and have been thinking about it for a while and realized that this is something I either have to face and open my mouth, or find other avenues of expressing myself. Thus came this blog and its title :-) *cues tadaa moment*.

*Cedes*

Blame It On Me

I always loved Chrisette Michele song Blame It On Me, but never realized how much it related to me until recently. After pretty much having my heart broken for the second time of my life, I realized that it is best to take the blame for what was done and move on. Now I know anyone reading this would probably think I have lost my damn mind or that everything was probably my fault but I will explain this theory.

When ever a relationship does not work out with somebody I often think back on it and analyze it and think about what might have went wrong on both parts. I at some point come to term with what I did that was wrong and either decide whether this is a core quality that just did not mesh well with that person or it was something that I could actually change. Now when I think about what the other person did wrong, I start wondering why they did that or why did I allow it. This train of thought is where it goes downhill for me. I can fix me but I can not fix them and most often if you do talk to the person you still will not get the answer you want or an answer period. Then I sit and wonder what what I could have done to warrant such actions against me and thus put myself in this vicious ugly circle of no end. 

My point is, if I take on the blame then I can fix it and move the hell on. Even if most of it wasn't my fault it is much easier for me grow and heal and use the situation as a stepping stone rather than to dwell on the shit I can do nothing about. So yes blame it on me. I am strong, I can take it, use it to make me stronger and a reminder to never make those mistakes again.

*Cedes*